Assalamualaikum...
Haritu kami hantar Shamil mendaftar di MRSM. Seronok (dan jeles). Seronok sebab akhirnya dapat menjejakkan kaki ke tempat yang berprestij ini. Sedih sebab terkenang kesah lama.
Hasif marah kalau mengungkit lagi, katanya seperti tidak bersyukur aturan Allah dan hikmah yang ada. Tapi saya nak berkongsi juga, moga jadi panduan untuk semua ibubapa.
Keputusan UPSR saya alhamdulillah bagus. Dapat pula Tokoh Murid, dan menang Anugerah Pelajar Contoh Daerah pada masa itu. Saya hanya budak kampung. Sekolah tepi hutan belantara.
Tunggu punya tunggu, kawan2 lain dah masuk MRSM, masuk SBP. Saya masih tak dapat apa2. Kecewa memang tak ingat. Rasanya borang SBP dah isi. Seingatnya borang MRSM juga sudah dihantar. Erm....
Akhirnya, bila tak dapat juga, abah suruh masuk Sekolah Menengah berdekatan rumah. Naik bas 15 minit sampai.
Hari kedua mendaftar sekolah, balik rumah kemas2 bilik abah. Terjumpalah surat2 tawaran. Ada dari MRSM, dapat juga dari KYS, dan CBN.
Terkejut. Dan kecewa masa tu. Sangat.
Jadi, saya bawa surat2 tawaran , jumpa abah dan tanya :
Kenapa Abah sorok dari adik?
Abah jawab: ala...kalau masuk asrama nanti kan susah. Kena bangun awal, kena duduk jauh dari abah. Nanti abah tak ada kawan.
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It's hurtful. Really. From that point onwards, I dont give a damn of my schooling and follow whatever predetermined for me. I had transfered from 1 SMK to another SMKA ; following abah's order. And scoring so and so in the exams. Telling you the truth, I HATE my secondary sooooo much, I generally had this selective memories of what have had happening then.
Perhaps, Allah still loves me. Though giving a darn attention at school, my scores are still acceptable. Then, accepted in UIA (still my brother's order and HIS selection of university), I did lots of external activities, a trainer for 1 NGO, asssitance lecturer and part timer for PHD research. Handfull kan.
Only during my 3rd sem, I've started focusing on my study, for 1 and only reason : I want to have the Dean's List Cert for keeping. Since then, I manage to collect the cert, for each and every semester towards my final.
And the rest are history.
Sometimes I do wonder, should the situation differs, what would I be?
And experiencing this myself, my promise to the kids, the decisions are always them to take on. I will just provide the avenue, the understanding on each topic and them alone to make the final say.
Thats why, from the early days, we let them to make the decision, with our supervision for sure. As smallest thing where to eat, or what to wear. To the bigger decision which school to enroll.
And my humble suggestion to parents as well, do not dictate your kids, to your own dream. Let them explore, experience and they will fly further. InsyaAllah.
Good luck.
Perhaps, Allah still loves me. Though giving a darn attention at school, my scores are still acceptable. Then, accepted in UIA (still my brother's order and HIS selection of university), I did lots of external activities, a trainer for 1 NGO, asssitance lecturer and part timer for PHD research. Handfull kan.
Only during my 3rd sem, I've started focusing on my study, for 1 and only reason : I want to have the Dean's List Cert for keeping. Since then, I manage to collect the cert, for each and every semester towards my final.
And the rest are history.
Sometimes I do wonder, should the situation differs, what would I be?
And experiencing this myself, my promise to the kids, the decisions are always them to take on. I will just provide the avenue, the understanding on each topic and them alone to make the final say.
Thats why, from the early days, we let them to make the decision, with our supervision for sure. As smallest thing where to eat, or what to wear. To the bigger decision which school to enroll.
And my humble suggestion to parents as well, do not dictate your kids, to your own dream. Let them explore, experience and they will fly further. InsyaAllah.
Good luck.
